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If you want to attract women, you have to think like a salesman. Know what your clients want, and tune your product–that’s you–to fit the clients’ needs.

So what we have are five areas that we must market effectively if we want to spark an initial attraction from women. After that, it’s up to you to show what a great guy you are: let her know you’re special, unique, one of a kind. That’s what makes you…a best-seller!

1. Ambition

From an evolutionary stand-point, this one makes complete sense. Think cavemen and cave women in the Stone Age, with some of the weaker cavemen seeking a higher station in the tribe. Who do you think the cave women went for? The men who hobbled along meekly in the bottom of the order…or the men who strived for more and sought a higher place in the pack? Much of a woman’s desire to be with a man who is ambitious and seeks success, is based simply on survival: The more powerful the man, the more likely she’ll survive and live well. Logically, going for a guy who has no ambition means she’s likely to live in poverty and struggle. Not very appealing, is it?

So you have to present yourself as a guy who’s not satisfied with his station in life. This is good for both you and her. If you’re making $6 an hour at McDonald’s and are content to stay there, not many women are going to be attracted to you. But if you’re making $6 an hour and working your ass off to own your own franchise, taking business classes at night so you can learn how to run a business: well, suddenly you’re not so bad-looking!
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Believe me, women will give men a chance, they want to give men a chance–as long as they see potential. Know that quote, “Behind every great man is an even greater woman”? Show you’ve got potential and direction, and you’ll get that great woman.

2. Status

Again, evolutionary instincts of survival make women naturally attracted to men of high status. High status=good living for herself and her children. Fortunately, projecting high status does not have to be difficult; according to Roberts, “Wearing the right clothes, especially nice shoes, can go a long way toward portraying wealth. Taking on the unshaken or unworried attitude of wealthy men can project affluence. Hesitant, irresolute, bland men come across as having lower incomes and being less reliable.” Got that? You don’t have to be a powerful, articulate man yourself-you just have to project similar qualities.

Some of these qualities include:

* Not putting yourself down. Without being a braggart, talk positively about your accomplishments, job position, and possessions-even if they’re not much. If you treat things as a big deal, other people will, too. Conversely, if you downplay your accomplishments and character, women will, too. Your attitude is contagious, so make sure it’s an enthusiastic, enlivening one that people enjoy.

* Act like you deserve good women. Don’t let women assume a higher status than you. Show them that YOU are the one with higher status. You can do this in a number of ways, including not acting impressed by a woman’s beauty or career (say, she’s a model); teasing her about her clothes or makeup; and asking her to buy you a drink. Chances are she won’t, but just by acting like you deserve it, you raise your status! She’s not such an untouchable goddess in the end.

Remember, as well, that women want to EARN a man; they relish the challenge of luring in a winning catch. So play hard to get: talk to other girls, say you’ve got to be leaving just when things are going well, don’t immediately ask for her phone number. If you act like a man who can have his pick of women, then chances are, you will!

* Knowing people of high status. This is a great one. Get to know the people of power: the club owners, bartenders, maitres’d. Position yourself as a sociable person who’s in the know. When a woman sees you getting special treatment and chatting with high-status people, she’ll see right away that you’re someone of importance. It will also reduce the importance of the other factors, such as height, money, and ambition; immediately you’ve proven yourself valuable.

* Social proof/Female acquaintances. Hey, nothing says, “This guy’s attractive” than having females around him. Of course, the hotter they are, the hotter you look, but even just having average-looking female company can only help: it shows women that other women are interested in you. Do your best to get your female friends and family (sisters, cousins) to come out with you. It’s social proof, and it works!

* Wearing nice clothes. “When a man is well dressed,” writes communications expert, Leil Lowndes, “it signifies his ability to provide for her offspring.” You don’t have to be rich and powerful to wear nice clothes. You just have to show that you’re a man of quality, a man headed towards somewhere who pays attention to dress (something women cna never get enough of). Formal clothes, such as a suit, convey that you are serious about success; you desire good things. So just by wearing a nice sports jacket, dress shirt, and slacks, you let a woman know you’re a man with status. You’re a man who could provide for her and her children.

The colors you wear are vital: Studies show that red, burgundy, and black clothes convey high status. So get yourself some slick black suits or formal wear, a red shirt, and one of my favorites (and girls’!), a sleek burgundy button-down shirt. They all convey regality and strength.

In the case of red, you have the added bonus of sexuality, power, and dominance: definitely good qualities to portray! Go and purchase a nice red polo shirt, or red tie for your suit.

If you enjoy white clothes-the color of purity and cleanliness-then make sure you work on your TAN. White clothes against a dark backdrop make you look exotic, sexy, and well-travelled. You don’t have to be an jet-setting playboy, to look like one!

* Winning body language. Women judge men by the way they move and position themselves; it’s part of their superior communication skills to know what a man is thinking or feeling based on his body language. So, position yourself in the right way: don’t slouch, sit upright, gaze at her knowingly, lean into her to initiate intimacy. I’ve got a great column on body language that will teach you the right ways-and the wrong ways-to project high status.

3. Financial Resources According to Matthew Fitzgerald, “Studies with college coeds show that when shown photographs of men dressed in high-status uniforms, ties, expensive watches, etc.) and low-status uniforms, these women would be significantly more willing to enter into relationships with the more expensively-attired males regardless of the man’s physical appearance. To a woman, attraction is simple: green is very good-looking.”

Okay, so not every guy has money for expensive suits and watches, and materialism may not be part of your game. However, if you want to impress women, one of the fastest ways is by wearing snazzy clothes, sporting nice shoes (girls LOVE shoes!), and driving an expensive car. Especially when it comes to designer brands, women are VERY keen at spotting high-quality products. It’s just part of their nature; with expensive possessions come high status and ambition, and a more comfortable lifestyle. Again, this all comes from their instinctual drive for survival and prosperity for themselves and their children. By owning the best, you become the best. At least on the surface.

Ultimately, if you want true love it’s up to you to find women who share the same goals and values. If money and status aren’t the most important things in life for you, don’t chase the girls who do prioritize those things. Don’t go for the shallow, bitchy types who only judge a man by how much he can spend on her.

4. Educational Level

Knowledge really is power, and on top of that, it’s an aphrodisiac! Gone are the days when being smart was acquainted with being a nerd; now, knowledge and intelligence are your friends. It’s the easiest way to money, and the easiest way to success. So show it off a little. Let her know your TALENTS, your interests, your areas of special knowledge. As Roberts writes, “Women are drawn to experts like the Crocodile Hunter, Bill Gates and Chris Rock because they’re experts in their industries.” None of those guys is particularly good-looking, but they’re good at what they do, and parlay their knowledge into success, which drives women wild.

A guy who’s an expert is one who is clearly successful and of higher status. At the very least, having a special knowledge means you have the TOOLS for success, and can provide intellectual stimulation for a girl (which, unless she’s a bimbo with an IQ of 70, is quite important for women).

Additionally, just being in school is a great way to show off your knowledge: “If you’re in school, not only are there more women available, but you’ve already demonstrated to them that you’re getting educated. Otherwise, it’s up to you to come across as reliable and credible without making her feel dumb.”

5. Physical Aptitude

Physical height alone is an easy way to catch a woman’s attention, but it’s not the only thing. Again, evolutionary mechanics come into play here. A man who is tall, strong, and athletic is more likely to fend off threats to the woman and her children. He is also more likely to have a strong immune system, which will further aid their chances of survival. So, you can’t blame women too much for valuing these things: in the world of female attraction, it really is a survival of the fittest. Those who show women they are in shape and healthy are much more likely to survive the dating game! Ergo, athletes, bouncers, firemen get the girls.

As for height, it’s all a matter of perspective. We’ve all seen short guys with tall beautiful women. Neil Strauss himself, the best of the best pickup artists, is just 5′6″ yet gets more beautiful women than we can imagine. How? By believing in himself. By positioning himself as a man of high status. By not bowing down to women of greater height or beauty. And by being a guy women know is fun and energetic to be around. In short, he’s got INNER GAME, and when you have that down, nothing can stop you. You may even find yourself dating women who are taller than you!

But remember, presenting a man who’s healthy and strong, willing to stand up for himself and the girl in a fight: that’s the kind of guy who women will go for, regardless of height. Did you know that men with strong immune systems give off pheromone scents that women are instinctually attracted to? If you pay attention to what you eat and go to the gym on a regular basis, you’re going to build your immune system up, and attract women without even trying! So do it, and watch the number of dates you get, soar.

In the end, men are like books: women judge them by their covers. But inside is an even greater story. So make your cover captivating, and you’ll become a “best-seller” in no time!

James Brito, Relationship Expert

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What difference does it make whether we keep the Golden Rule? The difference between heaven and hell, says Jesus. Should we ignore his advice? or listen to what he has to say?

“An expert in the law tested him with this question: ‘Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the law?’

“Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all of your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and the greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself. All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.’” (Matthew 22:35-40)

If we truly love our neighbors as ourselves we will not mistreat them. Brawling, murder, revenge, swindling, and theft are unthinkable. Grumbling, gossiping, insulting, lying, perjuring, quarreling, slandering, and strife in general will never happen. And defrauding, extortion, indecency, provocation, and causing others to sin are repugnant to us.

Physical Abuse

Murder

Clearly, we are not to physically abuse each other. Jesus says unequivocally: Do not murder. Anyone who murders will be subject to judgment. (Matthew 5:21) He repeats the warning: If you want eternal life, do not murder. (Matthew 19:16-19) (Mark 10:17-19) (Luke 18:18-20)

What happens to murderers? “Their place will be in the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)

Revenge

Jesus, Paul, and Peter all warn us against it. Jesus issues what may well be the most difficult command in all the Bible when he tells us not to resist those who wrong us. If someone strikes your right cheek, turn and offer him the other one also. (Matthew 5:39)

Does he really want us to do that? Or is this a bit of hyperbole to make the point we should not take revenge?

Paul gives us an order and a reason: “Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord. On the contrary: If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. ” (Romans 12:19-20) He tells the Thessalonians: “Make sure no one pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else.” (1 Thessalonians 5:15)

Again Paul: “Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody.” (Romans 12:17)

Peter has a similar comment: “Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.” (1 Peter 3:9)

Theft

We are not to take what does not belong to us: don’t steal, don’t defraud, don’t extort, and don’t swindle. Isn’t that just saying the obvious for civilized behavior? Yes, but people still do steal, defraud, extort, and swindle. Anyone who is tempted to commit one of these crimes should understand the eternal consequences.

Jesus: If you want eternal life, do not steal. (Matthew 19:16-19) Again Jesus: Theft makes a man unclean. (Matthew 15:18-19) And: If you want eternal life, do not defraud. (Mark 10:18-19)

Paul: Thieves and swindlers do not inherit the kingdom of God. (1 Corinthians 6:10) Paul advises: “He who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with his own hands, that he may have something to share with those in need.” (Ephesians 4:28)

John the Baptist: “Don’t extort money.” (Luke 3:14)

Verbal Abuse

Bragging and Boasting

I am sure you have heard the old ditty: “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” But it is not true. Words do matter. What you say makes a big difference to God.

James and John both caution us against bragging and boasting.

James: You boast and brag. All such boasting is evil. (James 4:16)

John: Do not love the world or anything in the world. The boasting of what a man has and does-comes not from the Father but from the world. (1 John 2:15-16)

Careless Talk

Carelessness too can be our downfall. Jesus gives us three warnings: “Men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.” (Matthew 12:36-37)

A second quote from the book of Matthew: “What goes into a man’s mouth does not make him unclean, but what comes out of his mouth, that is what makes him unclean.” (Matthew 15:11)

Jesus’ third quote includes the following explanation: “Things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these make a man unclean. For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. These are what make a man unclean.” (Matthew 15:18-20)

James offers us this candid bit of advice: “If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless.” (James 1:26) Also see James 3:5, 6, and

Complaining and Grumbling

Paul, James, and Peter tell us to refrain from complaining and grumbling. Paul admonishes us twice: “Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God.” (Philippians 2:14-15)

And: Do not grumble like ancestors who were killed by the destroying angel. (1 Corinthians 10:10)

James warns us: “Don’t grumble against each other, brothers, or you will be judged. The Judge is standing at the door!” (James 5:9)

And Peter simply says: “Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling.” (1 Peter 4:9)

Dissensions and Factions

Paul includes dissentions and factions in his category of obvious acts of the sinful nature. The punishment is severe. “Those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.” (Galatians 5:19-21) In Romans, he again tells us not to engage in dissension, (Romans 13:13) and in Corinthians, he speaks against factions. (2 Corinthians 12:20)

Gossips

Paul mentioned gossips on several occasions. Here is how he accounts for them. Because man did not see fit to acknowledge God, he gave them over to their own depraved way of thinking and that lead them to all kinds of misconduct. They became gossips, slanderers, and haters of God. (Romans 1:28-30)

In his second letter to the Corinthians, Paul wrote he was afraid when he came to see them he would find gossip, arrogance, and disorder. (2 Corinthians 12:20) And in 1 Timothy, the apostle cautions the church not to support widows younger than age sixty because they may become idlers, gossips, and busybodies, saying things best left unsaid. (1 Timothy 5:13)

Insults

We should not insult each other. It is one of the numerous obvious truths mentioned throughout the Bible. Insults stir up ill will and the desire to retaliate. Jesus forbids this sin: “Anyone who says to his brother, ‘Raca,’ is answerable to the Sanhedrin. But anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.” (Matthew 5:22)

Peter gives us this caveat: “Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult.” (1 Peter 3:9)

Lying

Another obvious sin is lying. Paul simply says, “Do not lie to each other.” (Colossians 3:9) In 1 Timothy, he tells us that liars flaunt the sound teaching of the gospel. (1 Timothy 1:8-10) And Jesus states the penalty: “All liars – their place will be in the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)

Well, of course, lying is wrong, but aren’t there times when shading the truth a bit might be in the best interest of everyone? That, I believe, depends on what we mean by “shading the truth.” Let’s say you encounter a very ugly woman. Would your sense of “honesty” compel you to inform her of your opinion?

Nothing is more destructive than brutal “honesty” of that sort. Neither you nor I really want to hear a “truth” that’s nothing more than in-your-face-hostility. Only the immature equate rudeness with honesty or tact with lying. Honesty is a requirement, so is kindness. There is little or no conflict between the two. Mature people understand that point.

On the other hand, intentionally distorting or twisting the truth for your own advantage is deception. Jesus, Paul, Peter, and John all condemn that practice. Rarely, if ever, will we find any legitimate reason for distorting the truth. Our intention should always be to speak the truth because we know we must account for everything we say. (Matthew 12:36)

Offensive Talk

Offensive talk in general is counterproductive. Paul orders us to watch our speech. Let there be no more offensive talk but rather words that are helpful. (Ephesians 4:29) Later in the same letter he writes: There must not be any obscenity, foolish talk, or coarse joking among you. (Ephesians 5:4)

In Colossians, Paul says to rid ourselves of filthy language. (Colossians 3:8) Then in 2 Timothy, he gives us this word of warning: “Avoid godless chatter, because those who indulge in it will become more and more ungodly.” (2 Timothy 2:16)

Perjury

Perjury means intentionally giving false testimony under oath or withholding material evidence. John the Baptist responded to the solders who had asked his advice: “Don’t accuse people falsely.” (Luke 3:14)

Jesus says false testimony is a sin that defiles a man. (Matthew 15:18-20) And in three of the gospels he says if you want eternal life, do not give false testimony. (Matthew 19:16-19) (Mark 10:17-19) (Luke 18:18-20)

And Paul adds: Perjurers flaunt the sound teaching of the gospel. (1 Timothy 1:10-11 REB)

Quarreling

Quarreling is yet another verbal offense. In five passages Paul orders us to refrain from quarreling. (Romans 13:13) (1 Corinthians 1:11-17) (2 Corinthians 12:20) (1 Timothy 2:8) (Titus 3:2) Warn your fellow Christians to stop quarreling about mere words. It does no good, and only ruins those who listen. (2 Timothy 2:14)

Again Paul: Avoid foolish controversies, arguments, and quarrels. These are unprofitable and useless. Warn a divisive person once, and then warn him a second time. After that have nothing to do with him. Such a man is warped and sinful. (Titus 3:9-10)

Paul also warned the Corinthians against jealousy and quarreling which showed they were worldly. (1 Corinthians 3:3)

Slander

Slander means to say something false attempting to damage another’s reputation. Jesus, Paul, James, and Peter all condemn this sin.

Jesus: Slander defiles a person. (Mark 7:22-23 REB)

Paul: Slanderers do not inherit the kingdom of God. (1 Corinthians 6:10) Also see: Ephesians 4:31, Colossians 3:8, Titus 3:2, James 4:11, and 1 Peter 2:1.

At one point or another in our lives we all become painfully aware, we cannot take back what we say. We may regret it; we may apologize for it; but the damage is done. As we mature, we ought to learn to choose our words carefully.

Christians are specifically warned against: boasting and bragging, careless talk, complaining, grumbling, creating dissensions or factions, gossiping, insulting others, lying, offensive talk, perjuring, quarreling, and slandering. Mere words can get us in a lot of trouble — with eternal consequences.

The New Testament writers mention several other misdeeds which don’t fit in either category: physical or verbal abuse. We will just call these offenses: other abuses against people.

Other Abuses Against People

Busybodies

Busybodies are meddlesome people. Paul tells the Thessalonians: Some of you mind everybody’s business but your own. We urge you to settle down to work and earn a living. (2 Thessalonians 3:11-13)

Divorce

Jesus explains the reason why husbands and wives should not separate: “At the beginning the Creator made them male and female and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one.’ Therefore, what God has joined together, let not man separate.” (Matthew 19:4-6)

Paul adds his advice: “A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.” (1 Corinthians 7:10-11)

In both Mark and Luke, Jesus states it unequivocally: “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.” (Mark 10:11-12) (Luke 16:18)

However twice in Matthew, Jesus makes a singular exception: “But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.” (Matthew 5:32) (Matthew 19:9)

Indecency or Impurity

Indecency is defined as immodest, obscene, or vulgar behavior. Today such conduct is so common it is almost considered normal or natural. If we notice it at all, we tend to dismiss it as a minor offense. Jesus, Paul, and John disagree. Here is what they have to say:

Jesus: Indecency defiles a person. (Mark 7:21-23 REB)

Paul: Impurity is an act of the sinful nature. Those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.

(Galatians 5:19-21)

Again Paul: But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. (Ephesians 5:3) No impure person has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. (Ephesians 5:5)

Jesus: “But the vile — Their place will be in the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)

John: Nothing impure will ever enter heaven nor will anyone who does what is shameful or deceitful. (Revelation 21:27)

Every age reads their own values into Christianity. In a vague, hazy sort of way, we assume God must see things the way we do. That naive sentiment would have God doing a flip flop in his principles every generation or so to keep up with the latest intellectual fad.

A more reasonable view is that God’s values are permanent. The writer of Hebrews says that Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever. (Hebrews 13:8) First century Christians were ordered to behave decently; we have no reason to believe less is expected of us today. Jesus, Paul, and John all tell us that indecency is not permitted.

Provoking

Paul urges us: “Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.” (Galatians 5:26)

Causing Others to Sin

In Matthew, Jesus warns us twice: “Woe to the world because of the things that cause people to sin! Such things must come, but woe to the man through whom they come!” (Matthew 18:7) And: “But if anyone causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a large millstone hung around his neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea.” (Matthew 18:6)

Details of the Golden Rule

We have covered a long list of do’s and don’ts regarding our behavior towards others. What sounds like a cumbersome agenda of rules and regulations really isn’t that at all. These dos and don’ts are merely the details filling out the Golden Rule. Treat others the way you would want to be treated. It is simple and covers all the bases.

If you are looking for a new twist on the subject , sorry, I don’t have one. But I do have a couple of observations. First, the importance of the Golden Rule cannot be overstated. Here is the very heart and soul of Christianity.

Jesus tells us the first commandment is to love God. How do we love God? By obeying his command. What command. To love our neighbor as our self. How do we do that? By treating them as we would have them treat us. That’s it. That’s what Christianity is all about.

My second point is: Despite it’s importance, few people actually practice it. Oh, occasionally you may run across someone who makes the effort. But they are the exception. Most of us settle for treating other people about the same way they treat us. And we think we are pretty nice folks for doing that much. It’s natural enough. But Christianity demands a higher standard.

Someone asked Jesus, “Lord, are only a few people going to be saved?”

He replied, “Make every effort to enter through the narrow door, because many, I tell you, will try to enter and will not be able to.” (Luke 13:23-24)

In Matthew, Jesus says, “Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it. (Matthew 7:13-14)

When Jesus speaks of the judgment to come, it becomes clear that the “narrow door,” the “small gate,” and “narrow road” are all symbols for keeping the Golden Rule. The “wide gate” and the “broad road” are symbols for not doing to others as we would have them do to us. That’s the easier, more natural path. And most people follow it.

Here is how Jesus put it: When the Son of Man comes, he will sit on his thrown. All the nations will be before him. He will separate the people one from another. “Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me. . . . Whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.’

“Then he will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from me, you who are cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels. For I was hungry and you gave me nothing to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink, I was a stranger and you did not invite me in, I needed clothes and you did not clothe me, I was sick and in prison and you did not look after me. . . . Whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.’

“Then they will go away to eternal punishment, but the righteous to eternal life.” (Matthew 25:31-46)

What difference does it make whether we keep the Golden Rule? The difference between eternal life and eternal punishment, says Jesus.

But does the Golden Rule mean we should rain down sweetness and light on all who come our way? Jesus, Peter, and Paul are clearly not advocating that sort of sentimental mushiness. Remember, Jesus drove the money changers out of the temple with a whip of cords. (John 2:15) And he publicly berated the hypocrisy of the Pharisees and teachers of the law — often to their face. (Matthew 23:28) (Mark 12:16) (Luke 12:1) Moreover, Jesus warned us not to give dogs what is holy or throw our pearls to pigs. (Matthew 7:6)

As for Peter, he condemned Ananias and Sapphira to death for lying. (Acts 5:1-11) And Paul called Elymas the sorcerer a child of the devil and temporarily blinded him because of his deceit and trickery. (Acts 13:8-11)

Surely God expects us to act with discretion. When charity or goodwill are appropriate, we should give generously. On the other hand, when confronting evil, we must stand with God. Wisdom is understanding what needs to be done. Courage is doing it.

Question to Consider:

C. S. Lewis says we shouldn’t worry whether or not we love our neighbors. Just act like we do. In time we will grow to love them. Do you think that might work?

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” Plato (428-348 B.C.)

Note: All Scripture References are taken from the New International Version unless otherwise stated.

REB – Revised English Bible

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One way to climb out of debt, or better yet avoid it altogether, is to learn how to stop wasting money. Americans are the most frivolous spenders on the planet. We also have the highest levels of personal debt. Of course impulse buys that end up in the attic can hurt the budget. But, it is our big-ticket purchases and routine spending that do the most to contribute to our debt over time and weaken our financial health.

For some, wealth is the result of investing well and saving. However, for many of us, it can come more realistically from not spending so much on items and events we just take for granted.

One of the first financial mistakes many make everyday is spending too much on premium coffee.
It’s fine to treat yourself once in a while, especially if you enjoy it more than your coffee at home or at the office. But, spending $3.00 for a fancy gourmet coffee drink everyday can add up, as can the calories in some of those creamy, sugar laden drinks! If you add up the dollar amount, it comes to about $1,000 in a year. Invest that same amount in an IRA annually and it can add up to a significant amount of retirement money. Even if you buy really good coffee to grind and brew at home, you will still save money. If time is your concern, making your own brew can actually be faster than waiting in a drive though line.

Use your public library to check out DVD’s and books instead of buying or renting them. Many libraries are now a part of a sharing network so collections have been expanded. Some offer online catalogs that you can use to browse and reserve from your home. Even digital audio books are available to download to your computer. Books are worth buying if you plan to use them again and again as a reference. But if it is a novel or magazine that you plan to read just once, borrow it from the library.

Pack a lunch. The least expensive way to eat lunch is to bring food from home. It’s also the best way to know exactly what it is you are eating. Frozen dinners are even less expensive than sandwiches from the local deli. When you do eat out, find the healthiest meal for the best value. Our fast food cravings have lead us to ever increasing obesity rates and diseases like diabetes, high blood pressure and heart disease. The childhood obesity epidemic is a national tragedy. The resulting medical bills will be a cause of bankruptcy among many individuals.

Slow down on the road. Driving at lower speeds uses less gas. Make sure you perform regularly scheduled maintenance on your car to keep it running more efficiently. Driving at the speed limits can also save a fortune on speeding tickets and the resulting raised insurance premiums. If you are considering going for a Sunday drive, consider going for a walk instead. Another option is getting out your bike. It should go without saying, but when buying a new ca
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r, look for fuel efficiency. Gas prices will continue to climb, so check out the new hybrids.

Save money on new cars by avoiding the expensive option packages. Do you really need a fancy global positioning system when maps have served you so well for years? Instead of spending thousands on fancy extras, spend the money on the base model of a better car or truck. You will be glad you did when it comes time to sell.

Maybe it’s time to reconsider all of your entertainment expenses. Add up what you spend on DVD’s, cable TV, movies, sports, magazines, clubs, bars, concerts, events and dinners. If you are trying to cut your debt, add up what you are spending on entertainment. How does the amount compare to the amount you are spending on debts and other expenses?

Don’t shop till you drop. Even if that new dress or shoes are a real bargain, ask yourself if you really need them. Survey your closet to see what you already have. If you do not really need more right now, if you can coordinate clothes differently or if you can focus on need verses the latest fashion avoid impulsive buying. Limit your shopping to once a month or once per season and take advantage of end of season sales.

Watch the wedding expenses. The average American wedding now costs $30,000. It’s not uncommon for the wealthy to spend over $100,000 for their nuptials. Keep in mind the meaning and purpose of the event, to celebrate your new marriage and to enjoy the company of friends and family. It is a shame to start out your new life with major debt from the ceremony. It is an unfortunate reality too, that 50% of marriages fail today. So, keep weddings simple and meaningful and do not get too wrapped up in the glitz and appearance.

Stop smoking. Smokers in America spent $88,000,000,000 on tobacco products last year. Depending on your location, a pack will cost you $3.00 to $7.00. Add that cost to your increased medical bills, and we are talking about a major expense. To be really smart, don’t think you are saving lots of money buying cigarettes by the carton just quit buying them altogether.

Put more time into selecting meaningful Christmas presents for loved ones. Instead of worrying about how much we need to spend, try to think about a gift that will bring joy to the receiver. Often, in haste, we buy expensive gift cards or random products online because we are just out of ideas. You don’t have to spend in excess to make the holidays happy.

Last but not least, there is our gambling habit. The gambling industry has changed its name to gaming to clean up its image. One new tactic to get you to spend more is installing slots that no longer accept coins; only bills discharged as electronic vouchers to put into another machine. If you are not dealing in real money, you are less likely to see your loses as real. Every time you walk into a casino, look around at all the glitz and know that you are the one paying for it.

By making some simple changes in how you spend your hard earned cash, you can avoid having a drained bank account, maxed-out credit cards and constant, nagging money anxiety. Think about how saving money in big and small ways can provide a faster road to long-term financial security and happiness.

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Washing machines make laundry tasks much easier. Washing machines are capable of cleaning laundry and drying. Learn more on the development of washing machines.

Washing machines are used to automatically wash clothes, bed sheets, towels and other fabrics. It is one of the most essential home appliances for many household nowadays. Since its introduction, manual washing is no longer common. Women do not have to worry about incurring bruises on their hands due to detergent bars.

Washing machines are electric powered. It comes with a motor which rotates the drum. The constant rotating motion spins the dirty clothes inside. Modern washing machines include a spin dryer and automatic timer.

During the 1990s, manufacturers of washing machines have developed the use of microcontrollers for the timer. It is one of the greatest improvements compared to the mechanical timer. This has led to incorporating the technology with some of the machines.

The company of Staber Industries introduced the System 2000 version. This washing machine was launched during 1994 and it is a top loading washer and was considered as the most efficient among other models.

The Whirlpool Corporation introduced its own model in 2001 called Calypso. This is also a top loading washing machine and deploys a vertical axis high efficiency system. The wash plate located under the tub allows the laundry to be tossed and bounced while water and detergent are sprayed into the fabrics and clothing.

Sanyo, one of the leading appliance manufacturer has developed the first ever drum type version. This washing machine makes use of a patented technology called Air Wash. This machine only consumes 50 litters of water. This model was released during 2006.

Since the use of washing machines has increased tremendously, one of the major concerns is on how to conserve water. This has led to the development of a washing machine that can be used with just a cup of water. This was developed by the University of Leeds in 2008. So modern washing machines now have water control levels depending on the load of dirty clothes.

As years passed, washing machines have been continually improved to meet the demands of consumers. The latest variants of washing machines include the front loading and top loading.

The top loading washing machines are very popular in the United States, Canada, Australia and other countries in Europe. The laundry are loaded inside the machine through its top opening and sealed with its air tight door.

The front model washing machines are widely used in Asia, Middle East and Europe. The laundry is loaded through the front opening which has a small window. Since this type of washing machines does not require too much water, a small amount of soap is sufficient. This type is therefore water saving.

Top loading washing machines are more complicated in terms of its mechanism because it consists of a clutch, crank and gearbox in order to finish the washing cycle. But these washing machines were developed with the use of direct drive motor system for a more simple operation. Modern electronic chips have also been used for a more efficient and better performance.

Many features have been added with latest models of washing machines which include child locks for safety, a time indicator, and steam.

Additional features of modern washing machine include the ability to rinse after washing. These machines are also safe for the environment and are more economical than early models of washing machines. These models are also more energy efficient and are more effective in cleaning and rinsing large amount of laundry.

Industrial washing machines are much larger and used for business or commercial purposes such as hotels and laundry services. Commercial types of washing machines can accommodate large amount of laundry and are more powerful compared to other types of washing machines such us those used for household. Commercial types of these machines usually come with durable casing with more features but are more expensive. It usually consists of automated timers with more versatile spin dryers.

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I Need My Ex-Boyfriend Back!

Being away from your ex after having shared such great memories with him can really impact a girl’s life. The worst thing about being dumped isn’t your pride, it’s the loneliness. If you can it’s a great idea to move on with your life, but if you feel for any reason that the two of you need another chance, then it’s time to do what it takes to get your ex boyfriend back.

Before you begin, you need to recognize and acknowledge that this won’t be as simple as asking to take you back. There’s more effort involved than that, and although it CAN be quite easy there’s a good chance that it won’t be. If you follow the advice I’ve laid out for you here though, you may find it easier than you think, both to get him back if you want to and also to have the choice not to take him back if that ends up being how you feel.

So your first step may come as a little bit of a surprise when you’re thinking that the things you do now are supposed to bring you closer…but it’s important that you keep away from your ex right now. Cut off contact, and leave him to his own recovery from the breakup. I know it sounds contradictory to what you want, but it really isn’t.

After a breakup, a lot of feelings are flying around…feelings that need to be sorted out and dealt with. This is true for the both of you, even if he seemed pretty fine with things when he dumped you. Being in each other’s faces during this “just after” stage is only going to cause more problems and drive you further apart, even if your intentions were to show your dedication and willingness to work on the relationship.

At this point, give him about a month to pull himself together and rethink his relationship with you. Without you there in front of him, he’ll most likely remember mostly good times rather than bad, and really start to miss you.

This is where you go on the sort of “passive offensive.” You need to work on him without ever intentionally talking to him or seeing him…which can be tricky, but but can also be easier than it sounds. It may seem a little shallow, but your appearance is going to be your main weapon here…a mixture of appearing more attractive than ever and appearing to have moved on with your life. Even if you still find the pain from the loneliness almost crippling…you have to stand up and be strong in spite of it.

So first off, set your goals at making yourself look as “hot” as possible. Even if you weren’t blessed with naturally being a knockout, every woman has “the look” that works for her. Find the hair style and clothes that flatter you, and if you have a few cosmetic problems you’d like to work out, go ahead and lose those couple pounds or get your teeth whitened. Anything you’ve been putting off, do it. Now’s the time to pull out all the stops and look as head-turning as possible.

Next is to make sure you’re seen this way, and to just mingle with other people in a social environment. Call up a bunch of your friends and go out to the bars, clubs, or parties where everybody’s at. Even if you’re feeling down, being with friends and getting a bunch of attention from the guys around will help to lift your spirits and cheer you up. More than that, if your ex sees you or somebody there sees you and tells your ex about it…it’ll get you on his mind again.

When a guy dumps his girl, starts to miss her, and then realizes just what a prize she was…he wants her back. 9 times out of 10, he wants her back. At the very least, she gets into his head and starts stirring things up…which makes her trying to get him back that much easier when the month of no contact is up.

These tactics not only help to make your ex more interested in the prospect of getting back together, but they can help you a lot when it comes to rebuilding your self-confidence as well. You’ll find that you get a lot of positive effects from doing these things, and it’ll help you out in more facets of your life than you may have at first thought.

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Discussion explaining to people that they should stock up on craft supplies, sewing and quilting supplies so that they will have materials on hand to make their own clothes, blankets, household useful items. During the coming depression you are not going to be able to go out and buy many items. But if you have crafting supplies already on hand, then you can make your own items. Some items I would have on hand: Fabric (material) thread needles sewing machine batting scissors measuring tape or yard stick buttons elastic zippers snaps cutting mat rotary cutter bias tape ribbon yarn knitting needles glue glue sticks glue gun wood tools nails screws bolts paint stain pillow stuffing paint brushes crochet thread patterns for men, women and children in your family’s sizes iron or press If you folks have any other tips or items, please share them in the comments section

I recall reading an article in the UK press about the revenge taken by a “woman scorned”.  Her response to her husband’s affair was very dramatic to say the least; she cut the legs and arms off all of his suits and then set about distributing the contents of his celebrated wine cellar around the village in which they lived – one or two bottles on each and every doorstep, together with their morning milk delivery!  Quite inventive.  And then I’m sure we all read about the case of a certain man whose furious wife decided that cutting legs off suits simply wasn’t enough and took a knife to his manhood instead.  I subsequently read that he turned this to his advantage by becoming a porn star;  Apparently so many people wanted to see his “wotsit”, he not only had it sewn back on again, he had a couple of inches added aswell!

This doesn’t appear to be an uncommon occurrence; just Google “cut off his willy” and there are numerous references to this form of revenge.  In fact I did hear that some ladies have taken this one step further, and attached their partners’ manhood to helium balloons so as to ensure that they would not be able to have them sewn back on again. Ouch!

What is the message being conveyed?  Is the aim simply to make sure that they won’t be able to do THAT again?  Or “you hurt me and so I’ll hurt you”, in the spirit of “an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth”?  Or is it to expose their actions to the world at large, to embarrass them just as you feel you have been embarrassed? Is it simply a way of lashing out?  All of the above are intertwined, I’m sure.

Not everyone responds in such a dramatic manner.  Have you watched the film “the women”?  It’s an intriguing film, with Meg Ryan (in the most recent version) playing the housewife who thinks everything is running along quite smoothly….until she discovers her husband’s dalliance with the perfume girl in their local upscale store.  This film depicts every type of woman, all ages, shapes, sizes and mentalities – and each has their own take on how the husband should be dealt with.  The mother’s is the voice of reason (and experience) recommending  a stiff upper lip combined with a period of playing hard to get, and letting him know what he is missing.  Sensible woman – this approach was working rather well, until friends added their opinions into the mix!

But, how do you control your emotions, and turn a blind eye, when your heart is breaking?  And how do you know if your partner is just having a minor dalliance or if they have really fallen in love?  It’s very difficult, if not impossible, to be logical when your emotions are involved.  Logic and emotions are like “oil and water” and rarely do they mix well in these circumstances.  In fact whenever you are confronted with a situation perceived as a threat (and this type of circumstance definitely falls into that category) your higher brain functions are effectively cut off, ensuring that you cannot think logically.  One has to step back and calm down before your logical brain can re-engage.  Your emotions definitely need to be managed in such circumstances. And hypnosis can be invaluable here.

Whether it’s best to lash out or to turn a blind eye is a matter of personal opinion.  Either way, there’s a lot you can do to help yourself to think logically and deal with an undesirable situation in the most effective manner possible.  And if it does end in a permanent rift, it’s massively important to be your own best friend and to make it as easy as possible for you to move on.  There is an art to moving on after a broken relationship, but you can learn it, and apply it.  Hypnosis is extremely useful in all this as in itself it is a state of relaxation, and allows you to take a step back and think logically;  you can rebuild your confidence and see things from a different angle with a few well placed suggestions…and prepare yourself to attract a better partner into your life.

Roseanna Leaton

BSc (Hons)(Psych), DHP, MIAPH

http://www.RoseannaLeaton.com

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Each person, at one point or other in his or her life, needs to fully engage his or her authentic self and voice. Finding your authentic voice is a journey. Are you on that journey? Do you need more awareness? Is your life out of balance? Are you not meeting your needs in positive and healthy ways? Do you know who you are? As a life coach I work with clients in helping them to find a deeper understanding of self that unlocks and unblocks them from toxic relationships, self-sabotage, feeling or being lost and unhappy in life. You have dreams and goals that you really can achieve. You can master your emotions, you really can. Visit my website at selfhelplifecoaching.com and learn more. I can help you if want and need more out of your life.

In todays world, it often seems unhappiness is all around us. Hatred, terrorism, war, violence, bigotry and job insecurity are part of our everyday lives. Depression affects millions of adults in America each year, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. People everywhere are resorting to prescription medicines, street drugs and alcoholism in order to combat feelings of depression, anxiety, restlessness and stress. However, antidepressants work for only 30 percent of the population and the remaining 70 percent continue to be depressed.

Numerous studies show that living in a democratic society, having family and friends, and rich social circle, material and monetary wealth, and adherence to ones own Religion can contribute to only 8 to 15% of total happiness. If that is the case, what is the rest of 90% constituted? Happiness derived from material wealth, monetary gains, a place or a person, is proven to be only short lived.

Here is a simple quiz for you and see how you react to these following daily situations.

1.Your boss has just passed over you for another big promotion. Your first reaction is to:
A)Angrily curse the existence of your boss to any co-worker or copy machine willing to listen.
B)Silently stew in resentment and depression over your personal loss (surely self-chastisement will accomplish something).
C)Shrug it off and continue your work because your career status has no affect your positive life outlook, and maybe you will get the big promotion next time.

2.Your significant other or roommate has left dirty dishes on the kitchen counter. Again, in response, you:
A)Choose a particularly large dish and hit them over the head with it.
B)Ignore the dishes like you normally do and think of ways to poison their food.
C)Realize dirty dishes are not a reason to be angry, and offer to help them clean to get the mess under control.

3.You have just won the lottery. The first thing you do is:
A)Personally call everyone who ever wronged you to rub their noses in it.
B)Spend every penny you have on houses, cars and clothes; anything to fill that gaping void in your life.
C)Invest it all in a savings account because you know carelessly spending vast amounts of wealth will not make you content.

4.You have just reached a significant life goal you have long been working towards. Your reaction is to:
A)Set another goal for yourself, because there is always something out there you would be more satisfied with.
BThrow a party for yourself because congratulations from friends (or, let us be honest, even strangers) will make you happy.
C)Continue doing your best for personal satisfaction because true contentment cannot be found through fulfilling a list of desires.

5.When you get up in the morning after having had a bad day, you feel:
A)Tired and frustrated that you have yet another bad to look forward to.
B)A little pessimistic, but if no one takes the last doughnut in the break room, you know things will look up.
C)Positive; today is a new day, and the past cannot affect your mood.

6.A stranger just cut you off in traffic. Your first impulse is to:
A)Follow them all the way home, shouting obscenities out the window and drawing stares from onlookers.
B)Internally rant to yourself about crazy drivers, letting the incident ruin your entire day.
C)Honk at the offending vehicle and then contentedly continue with your morning commute, unfazed.

7.Your neighbor has decided to have another late night lawn mowing session. Again, In response, you:
A)March across the street in your pajamas and threaten to stuff his cat in the mower if he does not shut it off.
B)Toss and turn until you finally fall asleep and dream of stealing the lawn mower from his garage the next morning; no more mower, no more noise.
C)Decide to rationally communicate with your neighbor about his nocturnal habits. It is an annoying problem, but you have the power to alleviate it.

8.When you get home from a stressful day at work, your first impulse is to:
A)Take out your pent up aggression on the nearest person, animal or object.
B)Hole up in a private area, turning the events of the day over and over in your head.
C)Cast away all thoughts of your workday and appreciates the restful time with your family and friends.

9.When you think about your past decisions you are:
A)Driven to drink.
B)Endlessly astounded by your uncanny ability for poor decision-making.
C)Never regretful, but excited to see what the future may bring.

10.When you think about what you really want in life, your first thought is:
A)I do not even know what I want for lunch today, much less for the rest of my life.
B)I know what others expect of me; do that count?
C)I know what my dreams are, and I am actively pursuing them every day.

If you answered mostly A: Congrats! You are a breeding ground for a perfect storm of high blood pressure, low self-esteem and possible mental breakdown. You let stress; anger and doubt control your life, instead of allowing your mind to control your mood. Learn to cool down, rationalize stressful situations and enjoy life; only you can create your happiness, and it begins with changing your outlook.

If you answered mostly B: You internalize stress, anger, doubt and put too much emotional stock in external factors, such as other people and their actions. A wrong look from a co-worker can send you over the edge, and if your significant other does not comment on your new hairstyle, it could send you spiraling into a depression over your looks. The little annoyances in life are just that; little annoyances that you should not let affect your mood. Learn to check your emotional baggage at the door (or at least stow it completely beneath your seat) and allow yourself the happiness you deserve.

If you have mostly C: You are well on your way to a fully content and happy life; keep up the positive attitude! You know that your happiness lies only in your own mind, not elsewhere in things such as wealth, relationships or any other outside stimulation or reward. You choose to be happy, therefore you are, and no other person or occurrence in life can change that.

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I recall reading an article in the UK press about the revenge taken by a “woman scorned”.  Her response to her husband’s affair was very dramatic to say the least; she cut the legs and arms off all of his suits and then set about distributing the contents of his celebrated wine cellar around the village in which they lived – one or two bottles on each and every doorstep, together with their morning milk delivery!  Quite inventive.  And then I’m sure we all read about the case of a certain man whose furious wife decided that cutting legs off suits simply wasn’t enough and took a knife to his manhood instead.  I subsequently read that he turned this to his advantage by becoming a porn star;  Apparently so many people wanted to see his “wotsit”, he not only had it sewn back on again, he had a couple of inches added aswell!

This doesn’t appear to be an uncommon occurrence; just Google “cut off his willy” and there are numerous references to this form of revenge.  In fact I did hear that some ladies have taken this one step further, and attached their partners’ manhood to helium balloons so as to ensure that they would not be able to have them sewn back on again. Ouch!

What is the message being conveyed?  Is the aim simply to make sure that they won’t be able to do THAT again?  Or “you hurt me and so I’ll hurt you”, in the spirit of “an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth”?  Or is it to expose their actions to the world at large, to embarrass them just as you feel you have been embarrassed? Is it simply a way of lashing out?  All of the above are intertwined, I’m sure.

Not everyone responds in such a dramatic manner.  Have you watched the film “the women”?  It’s an intriguing film, with Meg Ryan (in the most recent version) playing the housewife who thinks everything is running along quite smoothly….until she discovers her husband’s dalliance with the perfume girl in their local upscale store.  This film depicts every type of woman, all ages, shapes, sizes and mentalities – and each has their own take on how the husband should be dealt with.  The mother’s is the voice of reason (and experience) recommending  a stiff upper lip combined with a period of playing hard to get, and letting him know what he is missing.  Sensible woman – this approach was working rather well, until friends added their opinions into the mix!
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But, how do you control your emotions, and turn a blind eye, when your heart is breaking?  And how do you know if your partner is just having a minor dalliance or if they have really fallen in love?  It’s very difficult, if not impossible, to be logical when your emotions are involved.  Logic and emotions are like “oil and water” and rarely do they mix well in these circumstances.  In fact whenever you are confronted with a situation perceived as a threat (and this type of circumstance definitely falls into that category) your higher brain functions are effectively cut off, ensuring that you cannot think logically.  One has to step back and calm down before your logical brain can re-engage.  Your emotions definitely need to be managed in such circumstances. And hypnosis can be invaluable here.

Whether it’s best to lash out or to turn a blind eye is a matter of personal opinion.  Either way, there’s a lot you can do to help yourself to think logically and deal with an undesirable situation in the most effective manner possible.  And if it does end in a permanent rift, it’s massively important to be your own best friend and to make it as easy as possible for you to move on.  There is an art to moving on after a broken relationship, but you can learn it, and apply it.  Hypnosis is extremely useful in all this as in itself it is a state of relaxation, and allows you to take a step back and think logically;  you can rebuild your confidence and see things from a different angle with a few well placed suggestions…and prepare yourself to attract a better partner into your life.

Roseanna Leaton

BSc (Hons)(Psych), DHP, MIAPH

http://www.RoseannaLeaton.com

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I recall reading an article in the UK press about the revenge taken by a “woman scorned”.  Her response to her husband’s affair was very dramatic to say the least; she cut the legs and arms off all of his suits and then set about distributing the contents of his celebrated wine cellar around the village in which they lived – one or two bottles on each and every doorstep, together with their morning milk delivery!  Quite inventive.  And then I’m sure we all read about the case of a certain man whose furious wife decided that cutting legs off suits simply wasn’t enough and took a knife to his manhood instead.  I subsequently read that he turned this to his advantage by becoming a porn star;  Apparently so many people wanted to see his “wotsit”, he not only had it sewn back on again, he had a couple of inches added aswell!

This doesn’t appear to be an uncommon occurrence; just Google “cut off his willy” and there are numerous references to this form of revenge.  In fact I did hear that some ladies have taken this one step further, and attached their partners’ manhood to helium balloons so as to ensure that they would not be able to have them sewn back on again. Ouch!

What is the message being conveyed?  Is the aim simply to make sure that they won’t be able to do THAT again?  Or “you hurt me and so I’ll hurt you”, in the spirit of “an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth”?  Or is it to expose their actions to the world at large, to embarrass them just as you feel you have been embarrassed? Is it simply a way of lashing out?  All of the above are intertwined, I’m sure.

Not everyone responds in such a dramatic manner.  Have you watched the film “the women”?  It’s an intriguing film, with Meg Ryan (in the most recent version) playing the housewife who thinks everything is running along quite smoothly….until she discovers her husband’s dalliance with the perfume girl in their local upscale store.  This film depicts every type of woman, all ages, shapes, sizes and mentalities – and each has their own take on how the husband should be dealt with.  The mother’s is the voice of reason (and experience) recommending  a stiff upper lip combined with a period of playing hard to get, and letting him know what he is missing.  Sensible woman – this approach was working rather well, until friends added their opinions into the mix!
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But, how do you control your emotions, and turn a blind eye, when your heart is breaking?  And how do you know if your partner is just having a minor dalliance or if they have really fallen in love?  It’s very difficult, if not impossible, to be logical when your emotions are involved.  Logic and emotions are like “oil and water” and rarely do they mix well in these circumstances.  In fact whenever you are confronted with a situation perceived as a threat (and this type of circumstance definitely falls into that category) your higher brain functions are effectively cut off, ensuring that you cannot think logically.  One has to step back and calm down before your logical brain can re-engage.  Your emotions definitely need to be managed in such circumstances. And hypnosis can be invaluable here.

Whether it’s best to lash out or to turn a blind eye is a matter of personal opinion.  Either way, there’s a lot you can do to help yourself to think logically and deal with an undesirable situation in the most effective manner possible.  And if it does end in a permanent rift, it’s massively important to be your own best friend and to make it as easy as possible for you to move on.  There is an art to moving on after a broken relationship, but you can learn it, and apply it.  Hypnosis is extremely useful in all this as in itself it is a state of relaxation, and allows you to take a step back and think logically;  you can rebuild your confidence and see things from a different angle with a few well placed suggestions…and prepare yourself to attract a better partner into your life.

Roseanna Leaton

BSc (Hons)(Psych), DHP, MIAPH

http://www.RoseannaLeaton.com

Roseanna Leaton

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Behavioral Symptoms To Watch Out For In Your child

Autism is a complex issue and needs to be handled with the utmost care and understanding. If you find that your child has symptoms of autism, this will pose a challenge to you, and you may find that your child is not behaving like other children, in which case you will need to go to your family doctor so that he can assess the child and if he feels the need, he will refer you to specialists in the field who will be able to diagnose and treat your child.

Signs Of Autism That You Need To Be Aware Of

One of the earliest signs of autism is the fact that the child does not interact socially and is incapable of expressing emotions normally – the child also does not have a feeling of closeness with family and friends as normal children do. Children with autism shy away from bonding or touching other children.

Another sign that you need to be aware of is a communication problem especially with their same age group. Sometimes they are unable to speak and only sounds emanate from them and they gesture to others. There are certain cases where the child talks but mostly they repeat words that they hear and are unable to talk on their own – also if they do speak, it is in a monotonous manner and well below their own age group.

You will need to assess the effect of sensory stimulation on your child. Sometimes children get nervous and agitated at sounds, and at other times they may have a fixation on a certain sound or light for a length of time. It is necessary to consult a pediatrician if your child displays any of these signs.

There are certain rituals that a child with autism may do on a regular basis. If this is not done, the child may be greatly agitated – for instance a child may only eat a particular type of food and desire to wear only certain type of clothes, and if this is not adhered to, will get into a temper and behave in an extremely agitated manner.

It is important to note that if your child displays any of these symptoms, you should consult your doctor who will make an analysis, and advise you as to how you need to handle the situation. If he finds it necessary, he will refer you to a specialist in the field who will be able to make a more detailed analysis, and put your child on to treatment immediately, so that you will be able to give your child the correct treatment which will enable him to live a better life.

Abhishek Agarwal

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