I recall reading an article in the UK press about the revenge taken by a “woman scorned”.  Her response to her husband’s affair was very dramatic to say the least; she cut the legs and arms off all of his suits and then set about distributing the contents of his celebrated wine cellar around the village in which they lived – one or two bottles on each and every doorstep, together with their morning milk delivery!  Quite inventive.  And then I’m sure we all read about the case of a certain man whose furious wife decided that cutting legs off suits simply wasn’t enough and took a knife to his manhood instead.  I subsequently read that he turned this to his advantage by becoming a porn star;  Apparently so many people wanted to see his “wotsit”, he not only had it sewn back on again, he had a couple of inches added aswell!

This doesn’t appear to be an uncommon occurrence; just Google “cut off his willy” and there are numerous references to this form of revenge.  In fact I did hear that some ladies have taken this one step further, and attached their partners’ manhood to helium balloons so as to ensure that they would not be able to have them sewn back on again. Ouch!

What is the message being conveyed?  Is the aim simply to make sure that they won’t be able to do THAT again?  Or “you hurt me and so I’ll hurt you”, in the spirit of “an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth”?  Or is it to expose their actions to the world at large, to embarrass them just as you feel you have been embarrassed? Is it simply a way of lashing out?  All of the above are intertwined, I’m sure.

Not everyone responds in such a dramatic manner.  Have you watched the film “the women”?  It’s an intriguing film, with Meg Ryan (in the most recent version) playing the housewife who thinks everything is running along quite smoothly….until she discovers her husband’s dalliance with the perfume girl in their local upscale store.  This film depicts every type of woman, all ages, shapes, sizes and mentalities – and each has their own take on how the husband should be dealt with.  The mother’s is the voice of reason (and experience) recommending  a stiff upper lip combined with a period of playing hard to get, and letting him know what he is missing.  Sensible woman – this approach was working rather well, until friends added their opinions into the mix!

But, how do you control your emotions, and turn a blind eye, when your heart is breaking?  And how do you know if your partner is just having a minor dalliance or if they have really fallen in love?  It’s very difficult, if not impossible, to be logical when your emotions are involved.  Logic and emotions are like “oil and water” and rarely do they mix well in these circumstances.  In fact whenever you are confronted with a situation perceived as a threat (and this type of circumstance definitely falls into that category) your higher brain functions are effectively cut off, ensuring that you cannot think logically.  One has to step back and calm down before your logical brain can re-engage.  Your emotions definitely need to be managed in such circumstances. And hypnosis can be invaluable here.

Whether it’s best to lash out or to turn a blind eye is a matter of personal opinion.  Either way, there’s a lot you can do to help yourself to think logically and deal with an undesirable situation in the most effective manner possible.  And if it does end in a permanent rift, it’s massively important to be your own best friend and to make it as easy as possible for you to move on.  There is an art to moving on after a broken relationship, but you can learn it, and apply it.  Hypnosis is extremely useful in all this as in itself it is a state of relaxation, and allows you to take a step back and think logically;  you can rebuild your confidence and see things from a different angle with a few well placed suggestions…and prepare yourself to attract a better partner into your life.

Roseanna Leaton

BSc (Hons)(Psych), DHP, MIAPH

http://www.RoseannaLeaton.com

Roseanna Leaton

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Behavioral Symptoms To Watch Out For In Your child

Autism is a complex issue and needs to be handled with the utmost care and understanding. If you find that your child has symptoms of autism, this will pose a challenge to you, and you may find that your child is not behaving like other children, in which case you will need to go to your family doctor so that he can assess the child and if he feels the need, he will refer you to specialists in the field who will be able to diagnose and treat your child.

Signs Of Autism That You Need To Be Aware Of

One of the earliest signs of autism is the fact that the child does not interact socially and is incapable of expressing emotions normally – the child also does not have a feeling of closeness with family and friends as normal children do. Children with autism shy away from bonding or touching other children.

Another sign that you need to be aware of is a communication problem especially with their same age group. Sometimes they are unable to speak and only sounds emanate from them and they gesture to others. There are certain cases where the child talks but mostly they repeat words that they hear and are unable to talk on their own – also if they do speak, it is in a monotonous manner and well below their own age group.

You will need to assess the effect of sensory stimulation on your child. Sometimes children get nervous and agitated at sounds, and at other times they may have a fixation on a certain sound or light for a length of time. It is necessary to consult a pediatrician if your child displays any of these signs.

There are certain rituals that a child with autism may do on a regular basis. If this is not done, the child may be greatly agitated – for instance a child may only eat a particular type of food and desire to wear only certain type of clothes, and if this is not adhered to, will get into a temper and behave in an extremely agitated manner.

It is important to note that if your child displays any of these symptoms, you should consult your doctor who will make an analysis, and advise you as to how you need to handle the situation. If he finds it necessary, he will refer you to a specialist in the field who will be able to make a more detailed analysis, and put your child on to treatment immediately, so that you will be able to give your child the correct treatment which will enable him to live a better life.

Abhishek Agarwal

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The recession isn’t going to get any better before it gets worse. I hope you are the type of person that can read the economy if even just a little bit.

People I know are losing their jobs and I just think to myself, wow, this is really happening. People are facing worse econimic times then they ever have before.

This is the reason why I write this for you today. Truth is, I feel a little guilty. I’ve been working from home for a long time and I make very good money. People like me don’t really feel the pinch of the recession because we are so diversified. So basically, if one or two of my ventures slow down or stop completely, its ok. I have 40 other business ventures to back me up not to metion I’m constantly searching for new opportunities.

Recession or no recession, there are always opportunities. So you need to ask yourself this question: Do I have what it takes to become a Millionaire?

If you answered yes, then read on.

Working at home is wonderful because it allows you to be with your family more often than not. Most people are completely perplexed by how we work at home…I mean, where do we get our ideas to make money…and how do we make money from our ideas?

For starters, you can ask your friends what they are into or what the new trends are. You can look at the newspaper and magazines. The internet is always my first choice.

Find a few ideas that you think you would enjoy working on. Just keep in mind that your idea should also be worthy of other people’s interests as well.

You can purchase a few ebooks online and get your creative juices flowing. There are all too many ebooks that give step by step instructions on how to make money online.

Here are some other ideas to get you pointed in the right direction:

You can do online marketing for local business. Data entry jobs is tough but if you like that sort of thing…go for it. You can create your own ebook. No kidding.

Lets talk about that for a second. If you have knowledge about a certain subject, you should put it in writing and sell it online…it’s almost that easy.

You can become a ghost writer and get paid to do freelance work. Website design is still popluar as well.

If you like kids, why not explore what kinds of things you can do to make money that involves kids toys or clothes or something else like that.

You should always go with your passion if it is profitable. Drop it like its a hot potato if youcan’t make any money from it.

You can find a million websites that tell you how to make money online. I know, I’ve persoanlly bought a boat load of software and most of it didn’t work. I hope you don’t waste your money like I did.

Although I’ve been brief and very general, there is a method here. The method is simply finding out if this is really what you want to do.

If you are interested in working at home then I’m sure you’ll find my other articles and learn much more.

KK

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